23 June.

Today, my best-est friend is no longer Single. Mdm Lee aka Mrs Neo. Congrats....

Today, is also a friend's birthday... Happy Birthday Evelyn!

Today, is also my new colleague's birthday.

How so coincident. Well, maybe, there are tonnes and loads of people having their birthdays today too. There may be also dozens of babies brought to this world.

Talking about marriage. Is one considered a couple after the ROM? In the legal eyes, yes. In our traditional grandparents, parents and who-so-ever, maybe no. They only believe in customary. That's for Chinese.

And if one never thought of holding a customary dinner? Are they considered married?

Yes? No?

And if they do not hold the Chinese customary dinner, are they considered defiant, jian bu de ren (literally transalated to can't let people see)?

Hmmm.... I never really liked holding a customary dinner. All I like is a quiet private affair. Maybe a solemnization lunch, holding the Chinese tea ceremony at the same time. And then off to my honeymoon.

What will the elders say? Is it really two person's business when it comes to marriage? Or is it something that more than 2 person has a say.

Oh man... why am I talking about marriage?

Cos' I'm envious that someone of my age is actually married? Hahha... Maybe. Maybe not.

I always tell people, if can, I rather not get married. It's only a legal binding contract. Maybe the marriage should come in when there is a baby involved - to give the baby a surname. Or rather, not let people laugh at when he/she is older.... (I watch too much dramas....)

Cohabitation... I feel nothing is wrong. Personal opinion. When 2 person are really in love, is there a need for that legal binding document? Is that a document to show that one loves the other?

As much as that piece of paper is un-important. It's also important for women, people would say. For? To get alimony when anything happens? To get assets when anything happens?? To buy security - I think so. Women are always sensitive, overly suspicious creatures.

Whatever your views are.... never treat a marriage lightly. No matter if it's legal concerns, moral concerns or 'face' concerns.

It's easy to just say breakups with your boyfriend/girlfriend.
It's never easy to say breakups with your husband/wife.